5 Unexpected Signs of Suicide

Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States and 2nd leading cause of death for teenagers, and rates have slowly been increasing over time. This post isn't meant to put fear in you, but to inform you that suicide is real and is not going away anytime soon. As much as we would like it to. Suicide is defined as intentionally taking one's life, a disease to the brain, a solution to pain and suffering, and the list can go on for the reasoning behind this tragedy. But that's not the point of this post.

As suicide occurs at least 123 times per day, there are many signs that lead up to that distressing moment when the pain and suffering can no longer be endured. You may have lost someone to suicide or know someone who has experienced loss. However, the main goal of this epidemic hasn't changed: what can be done to help prevent others from reaching this point?

Many of us know that suicide may occur from ongoing depression, traumatic events, withdrawal from friends and even admitting to consider suicide to a friend or stranger.

But what about the signs that are not often spoken of? Well, that changes today. Let's find out together.

Here are the 5 Unexpected Signs of Suicide.

1. Sleep

Many of us experience sleep difficulties from time to time, but the sleep I'm talking about is slightly different. There is a known relationship between suicidal thoughts and sleep problems (e.g., insomnia). The mind is running at 100 mph during the day and all throughout the night about lack of purpose, plans to kill oneself and so on.

This busy mind can definitely keep anyone up at night struggling with thoughts of ending one's life. You literally lose sleep over it and it can progressively become worse if this kind of insomnia isn't examined by a professional. If you notice a friend is excessively tired from sleeping too much or lacking of sleep, maybe check-in with them. That might be something they really need.

2. Business

Many of us know that before we pass, we need to get our business in order. This means to write a will, reexamine life insurance panels or prepare family that you will soon be passing, usually because of age or some sort of sickness.

The same business aspects are similar regarding those who'd like to end their life sooner than what natural causes can do. This can include someone selling or giving away the majority of their possessions, contacting and visiting friends and family out of the blue, cleaning up ones room and even purchasing a firearm or dangerous substance. If you notice any of these red flags, connect with them and see what's going on.

3. Substance

Alcohol, drugs or any other substance are taken for many reasons: recreation, prescription, peer pressure, etc. But those suffering from what therapists call suicidal ideation may increase the usage of these substances. This is a tricky sign to understand as it is almost taboo to question "why" someone is taking their drug of choice.

We may assume they have the best intentions with their decision, so we don't ask any further. But, if you feel a friend is overindulging with a substance of some kind, it never hurts to tell them what your "noticing" and to ask "how are things".

4. Appearance

Appearance can be defined as what others can see: hygiene, dress attire and personality expression. They may be less concerned about their personal appearance during this time as their presentation and and health may decline.

Ever heard the saying, "the calm before the storm"? This holds some truth regarding suicide as they may have a sudden calming mood after experiencing depression or moodiness of some kind. This could be considered a sign that the person has already made a decision or feels he or she has no choice. Yes, even if someone appears to be in a good mood, it's still justified to ask how their day's been. You never know.

5. Crisis

How many times do we see on social media or heard that someone has lost a pet, a friend, a job, a home...literally any loss that was a significant impact? I would say daily if not all the time. This is why it's so important to check-in with friends and family, and not when it's only deemed necessary. I mean often. This may be a great reminder that they are still a part of something, and still having meaning for an existence. Their journey isn't over.

We all have our own life crises, whether it's losing a friend or losing a fortune, it can put us in shock. And this shock can be difficult to experience alone, yet some may feel they don't want to burden others with this shock-wave of news. If you notice someone pulling away, pull them in. If you notice yourself pulling away, reach out if you can.

The stigma of silence can be broken from both ends. The time is now.

If you feel you cannot take the pain or suffering any longer, your journey isn't over yet because you have something amazing to give to this world. Recovery and connection can begin right now. Even if your only connection is this post. You are not alone.

Yes, of course I'm gonna add a resource section, and yes, I'm gonna ask you to call and text these wonderful people who want to chat with you, right now. Literally, right now.

Your life is worth the call.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (24 hour service): Call 1-800-273-8255

Don't want to talk? Let's text then! -> Get free help now: Text CONNECT to 741741 in the United States.

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TherapyJacob Kountz